Have some courtesy about your death, please.

[dinkus mayhem]

Ohhhh, I hear you Mlaw. I really do. And I can't imagine the loss. It's not even my loss right now, and it's slapping me in the gut.

I'm sorry for yours.

you're a good friend. i respect you for that.

[Mlaw]

Ohhhh, I hear you Mlaw. I really do. And I can't imagine the loss. It's not even my loss right now, and it's slapping me in the gut.

I'm sorry for yours.

it's the price we pay for love. We can live without grief if we never love, I'll take the grief

[Nantrax]

I lost my mom one month before Christmas. You can imagine it wasn't a super cheery party that night.

Surprisingly the worst for me was Mother's Day (6-7 months after). For some reason I would hear all the commercials, ads on TV, etc.... By the end I was just pissed at the whole thing. I stayed home while my wife went to see her family. It hasn't been a problem since. Just the first time.

Every year I do 2 things in my mom's honor. On or around Mother's Day I will visit her grave and leave a rose. The second thing is that my sister, father and me go visit the grave the day my mom died.

My father will visit her mom and dad's grave (700km northwest of here) when he's out on business in that area. He says that every year he hears a sound coming from afar. He gets closer and it's a grave for a child. Must have happened 10-15 years ago? The toys are still there and this will continue for a long time. They haven't finished their grieving period yet...

[Mlaw]

I lost my mom one month before Christmas. You can imagine it wasn't a super cheery party that night.

Surprisingly the worst for me was Mother's Day (6-7 months after). For some reason I would hear all the commercials, ads on TV, etc.... By the end I was just pissed at the whole thing. I stayed home while my wife went to see her family. It hasn't been a problem since. Just the first time.

Every year I do 2 things in my mom's honor. On or around Mother's Day I will visit her grave and leave a rose. The second thing is that my sister, father and me go visit the grave the day my mom died.

My father will visit her mom and dad's grave (700km northwest of here) when he's out on business in that area. He says that every year he hears a sound coming from afar. He gets closer and it's a grave for a child. Must have happened 10-15 years ago? The toys are still there and this will continue for a long time. They haven't finished their grieving period yet...

I remember getting emails from a florist "don't forget your mom this mother's day" I sent back a scathing email about how inconsiderate they were, didn't it even occur to them that my mother could be dead?---

[Nantrax]

you don't need a date on a calendar to feel a loss. I miss my mother and brother the same on their birthdays, the day they died and on any generic Monday.

My mom died 8 days after her birthday so it's like having a 2 for 1 special.

The other thing, we love to go camping to a place on Lake Ontario. My parents would go there also, this is where my mom became ill (to learn she had cancer, dead 2 3/4 months later). To this day I keep asking my father which campground they were staying at. I just want to imagine probably her last real happy moments were getting sent to the hospital and spending most of her time there, with a few rare home visits. My can't remember the campground's name. He also hasn't returned there since it went down. He told me recently he might try again next summer, to try and move on a bit. I'll ask him if he wants me to come along.

The really "i'll break your heart moment" is this. My mom had come home for a few days, I guess to try and having a normal life. One night my mom asked my dad if he wanted to cuddle in bed. She wanted to be cuddled because it had been a while. My dad said no, only because he knew she was fragile and did not want to hurt her while cuddling. The next day was at the hospital and she never returned home.....

When my dad shared that story, I felt so sad for him. Trust me, if he could have gone back in time he would have done it to change his answer to yes.

Damnit i'm all emotional now........

Leaving this thread to avoid more weak moments.

[AmishGirl]

Really man -- someone on the other side of the family died on Easter. Can you imagine?

My father died a week before Christmas; his manners were exquisite!

[Nantrax]

I remember getting emails from a florist "don't forget your mom this mother's day" I sent back a scathing email about how inconsiderate they were, didn't it even occur to them that my mother could be dead?---

Here's the kicker for my dad. He knew this could happen but still. A day or two after death announcment was in the paper.... 2 or 3 real estate agents called, to give their condoloscence but then say stuff like "Are you gonna keep the house? Can you manage to take care of everything?" They wanted to convince him that he should sell the house. He works in real estate (not an agent) so he expected the calls. I was really angry.

Probably for at least 1-2 years my mom would still get mail and phonecalls from telemarketers. I can imagine the phone call "Yes Hello, I work at xxx bank. I would like to speak with Mrs. XXXX" "She passed away last year" "............................................. ."

[Nantrax]

Oh yeah... I killed this thread

[dinkus mayhem]

sorry about all that stuff nantrax. you got heart.

[RH Goatcabin]

Who fucking ups and dies on New Year's day? Why don't you kill kittens on Christmas and hang puppies at Easter while you're at it, you inconsiderate bastard?

Sorry aboot your friend's loss. Drop 'em luv...