you don't need a date on a calendar to feel a loss. I miss my mother and brother the same on their birthdays, the day they died and on any generic Monday.
My mom died 8 days after her birthday so it's like having a 2 for 1 special.
The other thing, we love to go camping to a place on Lake Ontario. My parents would go there also, this is where my mom became ill (to learn she had cancer, dead 2 3/4 months later). To this day I keep asking my father which campground they were staying at. I just want to imagine probably her last real happy moments were getting sent to the hospital and spending most of her time there, with a few rare home visits. My can't remember the campground's name. He also hasn't returned there since it went down. He told me recently he might try again next summer, to try and move on a bit. I'll ask him if he wants me to come along.
The really "i'll break your heart moment" is this. My mom had come home for a few days, I guess to try and having a normal life. One night my mom asked my dad if he wanted to cuddle in bed. She wanted to be cuddled because it had been a while. My dad said no, only because he knew she was fragile and did not want to hurt her while cuddling. The next day was at the hospital and she never returned home.....
When my dad shared that story, I felt so sad for him. Trust me, if he could have gone back in time he would have done it to change his answer to yes.
It wasn't actually mine. It was my BFF's dad. Today. I've posted about this before - he was given 4 - 6 months. Opted to kick out today.
I want so badly to help her somehow, but there isn't a thing I can do, except imagine how awful it is to lose your dadI
I feel sick to my stomach for her. Now, New Year's day is ruined for her whole family, for forever. He shoulda held out another day or so, just to be polite.
that sucks. but i don't think it has to be ruined forever. it all depends on how you frame it. it can be a great memorial dy for her father's memory down the road. every new year comes with a reminder of her dad and all he meant to her. sounds kind of nice...down the road. for now it sucks ag's balls.