I turned 40 and am knee-deep in a mid-life crisis

[Dainty Jainty]

I figured the "mid-life crisis" phenomenon only happened to a few people until it hit me hard like a punch to the neck.

I turned 40 in August. I work in a field (finance) totally unrelated to my talents and higher education (artistic talent, BA and MA in forensic psychology).

I just got back from a glorious vacation in Australia (my fourth visit to that beautiful country) and do NOT want to return to work on Wednesday. I've lived in NYC for 22 years and can't stand it anymore. Hate the assholes, hate the noise, hate the grit.

I feel the need to make serious changes in my life. I want to quit my job, sublet my apartment, move to the country, live off my savings and sublet fees, and start fresh with a quiet part-time job somewhere in my new environs and use my free time to explore nature and work on my art work.

My boyfriend says I can definitely do all that! I have the savings to get me by for a few years if I get no work (coupled with the sublet fees, I'd be pretty nicely set). But I'm too chicken shit to make such a big change. I make decent money and am too scared to leave it behind (I grew up poor so the idea of going back to living on meager wages scares me).

I feel so stressed and confused and tired of this all, I want to cry.

[Capn Crud]

Bjs are important when we get old too

[BleedingGums]

Cry harder faggot!!!

[Dainty Jainty]

Cry harder faggot!!!

lol! I was waiting for that! I'm a woman, btw.

[Stew Nod]

Of course what you are suggesting sound fan-fucking-fabulo-tastic and I'd do it in a minute if I could....so yes, I'm jealous

[Lemmy]

Gotta be happy. Making $$$$ isn't everything and country living is wonderful.

[stripes]

what is your current career?

[Stew Nod]

I figured the "mid-life crisis" phenomenon only happened to a few people until it hit me hard like a punch to the neck.

I turned 40 in August. I work in a field (finance) totally unrelated to my talents and higher education (artistic talent, BA and MA in forensic psychology).

I just got back from a glorious vacation in Australia (my fourth visit to that beautiful country) and do NOT want to return to work on Wednesday. I've lived in NYC for 22 years and can't stand it anymore. Hate the assholes, hate the noise, hate the grit.

I feel the need to make serious changes in my life. I want to quit my job, sublet my apartment, move to the country, live off my savings and sublet fees, and start fresh with a quiet part-time job somewhere in my new environs and use my free time to explore nature and work on my art work.

My boyfriend says I can definitely do all that! I have the savings to get me by for a few years if I get no work (coupled with the sublet fees, I'd be pretty nicely set). But I'm too chicken shit to make such a big change. I make decent money and am too scared to leave it behind (I grew up poor so the idea of going back to living on meager wages scares me).

I feel so stressed and confused and tired of this all, I want to cry.

Just buy a harley like I did...you'll get over it!

[Jim J Jiblets]

Just buy a harley like I did...you'll get over it!

You too, eh?

[Stew Nod]

You too, eh?

5 years now...I commute every day...love it

[bobtraw]

Better to do this when you have money and life experience as you do than when you're a 20 year old broke moron.

[keywordpk]

How far from the city are you thinking? Another state? What kind of interests do you have that might lead you into another career direction?



It sounds like a great opportunity to see what's out there and really figure out what your passion is. It would be an adventure, for sure.

[Dainty Jainty]

Gotta be happy. Making $$$$ isn't everything and country living is wonderful.

I know, I know.. I grew up in the country til I was 18. That's when I moved to the big city. I thought the country was boring as fuck but now I pine for it (pun not intended).

what is your current career?

I work in finance which is pretty awful (all about greed and zero humanity). I took this job because I was a temp at first but the full-time position was open so I went for it! Thankfully, I have a great boss so I'm really lucky in that respect!

Of course what you are suggesting sound fan-fucking-fabulo-tastic and I'd do it in a minute if I could....so yes, I'm jealous

I agree.. if only I weren't such a coward to make such a big move. But I'll let this seed thought grow and not let it die. I'll get there.. just have to work out the details and conjure up the guts to make it happen.

How far from the city are you thinking? Another state? What kind of interests do you have that might lead you into another career direction?


It sounds like a great opportunity to see what's out there and really figure out what your passion is. It would be an adventure, for sure.

I grew up in the country in New England so moving back to Massachusetts would be fine by me. My parents want to retire to Arizona in a few years so if I could move right back into their house but as MINE (after refurbishing the hell out of that decrepit place) that would be perfect.

I would even be happy being a librarian, do something real easy and use my free time to foster all my other interests.

Thanks for all this feedback. I feel better now.. going to make this into my plan now! My escape plan. Going to do all I can to make it happen (make the right investments, save my cash, work out the details). Thanks!!

[Satori Brah]

I figured the "mid-life crisis" phenomenon only happened to a few people until it hit me hard like a punch to the neck.

I turned 40 in August. I work in a field (finance) totally unrelated to my talents and higher education (artistic talent, BA and MA in forensic psychology).

I just got back from a glorious vacation in Australia (my fourth visit to that beautiful country) and do NOT want to return to work on Wednesday. I've lived in NYC for 22 years and can't stand it anymore. Hate the assholes, hate the noise, hate the grit.

I feel the need to make serious changes in my life. I want to quit my job, sublet my apartment, move to the country, live off my savings and sublet fees, and start fresh with a quiet part-time job somewhere in my new environs and use my free time to explore nature and work on my art work.

My boyfriend says I can definitely do all that! I have the savings to get me by for a few years if I get no work (coupled with the sublet fees, I'd be pretty nicely set). But I'm too chicken shit to make such a big change. I make decent money and am too scared to leave it behind (I grew up poor so the idea of going back to living on meager wages scares me).

I feel so stressed and confused and tired of this all, I want to cry.

How bout some dick?

[bobtraw]

Smoke da krack, fresh dick, get high in the hough house!

[gwartney]

You only go around once in life. If you aren't happy with it and you don't make the change, you may look back in ten years and think that you wasted those ten years. Sounds like you aren't just jumping into it without planning so you're all the better for that. I'm currently changing careers and I only wish I'd (financially) planned it out as well as you appear to have.

[dinkus mayhem]

I figured the "mid-life crisis" phenomenon only happened to a few people until it hit me hard like a punch to the neck.

I turned 40 in August. I work in a field (finance) totally unrelated to my talents and higher education (artistic talent, BA and MA in forensic psychology).

I just got back from a glorious vacation in Australia (my fourth visit to that beautiful country) and do NOT want to return to work on Wednesday. I've lived in NYC for 22 years and can't stand it anymore. Hate the assholes, hate the noise, hate the grit.

I feel the need to make serious changes in my life. I want to quit my job, sublet my apartment, move to the country, live off my savings and sublet fees, and start fresh with a quiet part-time job somewhere in my new environs and use my free time to explore nature and work on my art work.

My boyfriend says I can definitely do all that! I have the savings to get me by for a few years if I get no work (coupled with the sublet fees, I'd be pretty nicely set). But I'm too chicken shit to make such a big change. I make decent money and am too scared to leave it behind (I grew up poor so the idea of going back to living on meager wages scares me).

I feel so stressed and confused and tired of this all, I want to cry.

do it faggit.

[Mr Sinister]

Sounds like you actually thought about this and have a pretty decent plan id say go for it. If it doesn't work out move back to the city find another job and live miserably like every one else

[babybear]

we left Jersey 20 yrs ago.quit good jobs to start over here in AZ with 2 boys and no jobs,it helped we paid cash for a house.the boys have done well and so have we.

you are single and no kids ?

do it.

[LeAdz]

I figured the "mid-life crisis" phenomenon only happened to a few people until it hit me hard like a punch to the neck.

I turned 40 in August. I work in a field (finance) totally unrelated to my talents and higher education (artistic talent, BA and MA in forensic psychology).

I just got back from a glorious vacation in Australia (my fourth visit to that beautiful country) and do NOT want to return to work on Wednesday. I've lived in NYC for 22 years and can't stand it anymore. Hate the assholes, hate the noise, hate the grit.

I feel the need to make serious changes in my life. I want to quit my job, sublet my apartment, move to the country, live off my savings and sublet fees, and start fresh with a quiet part-time job somewhere in my new environs and use my free time to explore nature and work on my art work.

My boyfriend says I can definitely do all that! I have the savings to get me by for a few years if I get no work (coupled with the sublet fees, I'd be pretty nicely set). But I'm too chicken shit to make such a big change. I make decent money and am too scared to leave it behind (I grew up poor so the idea of going back to living on meager wages scares me).

I feel so stressed and confused and tired of this all, I want to cry.

get a motorcycle

do lots of coke

and fuck a lot of whoars



oh wait

you're a chick

fuck a lot of whoars